Feminine Energy 101: What it is, How to Embody it, and the Truth You Already Know
Do you ever feel like you're always doing — constantly thinking, fixing, planning, holding it all together?
There’s a part of you that’s been quietly whispering…
There has to be more than this.
More aliveness. More pleasure. More ease.
This is your feminine energy calling you home — to yourself.
But the world has taught us to stay busy. To keep pushing. To be “on” all the time. That glorifies hustle, control, and logic. It’s easy to lose touch with the part of you that feels, flows, and receives.
So we’ve learned how to perform. How to produce. How to hold everything together even when we’re exhausted.
And somewhere along the way… you forgot who you really are.
This blog isn’t here to teach you something new.
It’s here to help you remember.
Because feminine energy isn’t something you attain. It’s something you come home to.
The Feminine is a call back to your wild nature, desires, and natural way of being fully woman — with no shame, no guilt, no embarrassment or humiliation, just simply you. Because everything you are right now, is enough, just because you exist.
What Feminine Energy Really Is
Let’s clear something up right away: feminine energy isn’t about being soft-spoken to appease others, on point 24/7 sexy seductress, or forced submission. And it’s not a spiritual trend or Instagram aesthetic.
Feminine energy is your natural state of being. It is your essence — the part of you that is intuitive, sensual, cyclical, powerful, full of pleasure, alive, and deeply connected to your body and emotions.
In polarity terms:
Masculine energy is focused, structured, goal-oriented.
Feminine energy is fluid, sensual, emotional, and embodied.
Both energies exist within you — but many women today are overidentified with their masculine, often from necessity. Feminine embodiment isn’t about rejecting the masculine — it’s about reclaiming the fullness of who you are.
It’s the part of you that knows how to receive without expectation.
How to feel without shame.
How to trust your body instead of question it.
How to rest without guilt.
How to move in harmony with life rather than always trying to control it.
Most women have been taught to live disconnected from this part of themselves. Not because they’re broken — but because they’ve been conditioned to believe they have to earn their worth by doing more, instead of being just as they are. Conditioned to believe that they are too much, or not enough, or shamed for their wildness & natural desires. This is the place where knowing can now occur —
“...to become as conscious as possible. That means stepping outside our suffering and seeing what it means, how it goes, what pattern it is following, studying others with the same pattern who have come through it all, and imitating what makes sense to us. It is this kind of observation of predicaments and solutions that bids a woman to stay to herself, and this is right…”
If you’ve been stuck in overdrive or feel like you’ve lost touch with yourself, it’s not your fault.
But it is your invitation.
How Feminine Energy Saved My Marriage
This work isn’t abstract for me. It’s personal.
I spent years in survival mode (without even realizing it) — holding everything together, trying to be the perfect partner, mother, daughter, friend. I had zero connection to my body, completely numbed out to sensation and my emotions were shutdown. Nothing ‘got to me’ and I thought that was a good thing. I thought vulnerability was something I was doing but really I was only scratching the top layer.
My husband would beg me to open up to him, give him something… and I honestly was giving him everything I was capable of in that moment.
Looking back now? I was giving him the bare minimum of the truth of me.
I was terrified to let anyone truly see me because of fear of criticism.
I didn’t know how to let anyone in fully from fear of not being accepted.
I didn’t let anyone hold me and my vulnerabilities, wants or desires, because I didn’t trust anyone to do it and protect those tender parts of me to the same capability that I could protect myself.
And beneath the surface — I was burned out, resentful, and unbearably lonely.
Reclaiming my feminine didn’t just heal my relationship with myself — it gave my marriage a second chance.
When a woman returns to her feminine, everything shifts.
She stops performing and starts living.
She’s not trying to be desirable — because she’s connected to her own desire.
She becomes magnetic, not because she’s trying to be, but because she’s rooted in her truth & her power.
Nature, Archetypes & the Forgotten Wisdom of the Body
The feminine lives in all things — the moon, the ocean, the curves of your body, the rise and fall of your breath.
The masculine is the sun, the structure, the universe that holds the container for all things to flow inside of.
The feminine is the Earth. She is wild. Alive. A tempest. A gentle hand in the breeze. Unapologetically cyclical.
We all carry both energies — and both are sacred. But most women have been overidentifying with their inner masculine (the part of us that pushes, fixes, analyzes, proves, penetrates) and have lost touch with their feminine wisdom.
When I guide women home to themselves, when the opportunity arises, we work with elements like water, air, fire, earth, and with archetypes like The Wild Woman, The Queen, and The Witch. The Lover, The Maiden, The Mother, The Crone — not as costumes to put on, but as living energies we all carry.
And the body?
The body holds every answer.
Your truth lives in your womb.
Your boundaries live in your hips.
Your knowing lives in your breath.
Sensuality Isn’t Optional
If this feels edgy or indulgent to read — good. That means you’re waking up.
We’ve been taught that sensuality is something extra, something saved for the bedroom, something that has to be earned.
But your sensuality is your lifeforce. It’s the spark that makes you feel alive in your skin. It’s the way you taste your morning coffee or sway your hips to a song that no one else hears. The way you are able to savor life with every single one of your five senses.
When we normalize sensuality as part of everyday life — not something performative, not something “special” — we reconnect to the core of feminine energy.
Feminine ≠ Weak
There’s a lie that softness means weakness.
That if you rest, you’ll fall behind.
That if you feel too much, you’ll be a mess.
But here’s the truth: living in your feminine doesn’t make you fragile. It makes you free.
It’s not passive. It’s powerful.
Feminine energy doesn’t just surrender — she chooses to surrender. She moves with discernment. She sets boundaries that are rooted in the body, not in fear. She receives without apology.
What’s Possible When You Reclaim Her
When a woman reconnects to her feminine, her whole life starts to shift:
She no longer needs to prove herself to feel worthy.
She starts receiving more love, support, and abundance — without having to force it.
She can create and hold boundaries with power and compassion.
She creates space for pleasure, play, and purpose to actually coexist.
She becomes a safe place for herself.
Each woman’s feminine will look, feel, move, be different. That’s the beauty of it. There’s no script to follow. No mold to fit into. Just your own truth to remember. Your own story to rewrite.
Are You Ready to Remember?
If something stirred in you while reading this… that wasn’t random.
That was her.
The part of you that’s been waiting.
There’s a new way (or more correctly, an old way) of being available to you — and it doesn’t require you to become someone else.
It asks you to come home to you.
If you’re ready for more — more softness, more ease, more aliveness and pleasure, more power, truth, & knowing of who you are — come deeper.
You don’t have to do it alone, I’ll walk alongside you the entire way.
>>Let’s return to HER, and allow her, to RISE.<<
5 Ways to Embody Feminine Energy Today —
Move your body intuitively
Not for exercise, but for expression. Sway. Stretch. Let your hips/womb lead.Rest without guilt
Let rest be sacred. Lay down. Breathe. Let the world wait.Receive something fully
A compliment. A touch. A sunset. Let it land inside you without reciprocation.Engage your senses
Light a candle. Play music. Wear something that feels soft and luxurious — for you.Express your emotions
Journal. Cry. Moan. Laugh. Let your emotions move through you instead of being suppressed.
Then… just listen. To your body. To your desires. To you. To her.
xo — Claira
